Determine What You Want in Your Partner

Series:  Watching Movies from a Different Perspective

Those who create consciously know that it begins with determining what you want—especially in a relationship.  Sounds easy enough, but for some of us, it is not.  If you were a workaholic, someone who chooses work over relationship, you know what I mean.  But it might be that you’ve never really thought about what you really want (and don’t want) in your partner.

Fortunately, there’s a movie to help us with that:

The Yoda of Escorts

Brief Synopsis

Kat Ellis hires a male escort (Nick) to pose as her boyfriend at her sister’s wedding in an attempt to punish her ex-fiancé, who dumped her a couple years prior.

Character Behavior

But Nick turns out to be so much more than a gorgeous man.  Kat calls him “the Yoda of escorts.”

Nick portrays all the behaviors women seek in a male partner—with her, at the reception the day they arrive, at the bride’s night with her friends before the wedding, and at the wedding with her friends and family.

In the reception, Nick winks at her across a crowded room; Kat watches from a distance as he interacts with older women and she smiles.  When she’s at the bride’s party, he comes in to deliver something to her, and the women invite him to stay for a while.  He counsels the groom.  He is sent by the bride’s dad to collect her when she’s not where she’s supposed to be, and he hears her confession.

In my book, he definitely earned the name, “Yoda of escorts.”  For non-trekkies:

Yoda of Star Wars. Yoda, a male member of a mysterious species, was a revered Jedi Master who served as the Grand Master of the Jedi Order in the waning days of the Galactic Republic. He was renowned within the Order for his wisdom, powers of the Force, and lightsaber combat, and he lived for nearly 900 years.*

Yeah, like that.

Kat complains that she never thought “this” (being with a paid date) would happen to her, and Nick replies:

Every woman has the exact love life she wants.  When you’re ready to let go of being single and miserable, you will.

New scene:  After he demonstrates what he knows about women, Kat says, “Holy crap!  You’re worth every penny!” (Psst:  it wasn’t about sex.)

So how does this movie movie help to identify what you want so you can consciously create that relationship?

You will have to watch the movie a few times as I did.  And take notes!

Here are some from my list of Yoda Nick’s behavior:

• Attentive to his partner
• Self-assured in a variety of circumstances
• Authentic and speaks the truth
• Well-versed in social manners
• Clean-shaven
• Only has eyes for her
• Knows a lot about life and people

Watching The Wedding Date from a different perspective–in this case, how characters behave–can suggest ideas for your list of what you want and what you absolutely do not want in your next relationship partner.

Till next time,

Please be kind to everyone you meet, for we all have our hidden sorrows. ~Tzaddi

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