[These excerpts are from CYCLING in the CITY — How I Got My Confidence Back, Book 2 in the Burnout to Bliss series. Book 2 is about a first step in recovery after intense burnout. (For that story, please see Book 1, BURNOUT — How a Desert Lizard Restored My Faith.)
Book 2, CYCLING in the CITY, was designed to be a guide for anyone wanting to make any kind of change in her life. “Part One: Cycling in the City” is my story, sharing the process of making a huge personal change — healing myself and reclaiming my confidence and self-esteem. “Part Two: Thoughts About Making Changes” explains why making change is so difficult; it addresses the different kinds of changes we make, the mental games we play, and the essential key for success. The book is $1.99 for a limited time. Buy it here.]
Excerpt 15, from PART TWO: MAKING CHANGES
Making changes in life isn’t always easy. Our mind and body are programmed to put as much as possible on auto-play so we don’t have to keep attending it. You don’t have to think about breathing, digesting your food, or any other bodily function. It’s automatic. It’s handled.
And after you’ve really learned something, like how to drive a stick shift, you never have to think about it again. It’s automatic.
Really good cooks don’t consciously think about each step they’re doing. Professional athletes don’t, either.
So why do we have so much trouble making simple little changes in our lives?
Because we’ve forgotten what it took to get those other changes installed – like learning. Those habitual behaviors, habits, were formed by conscious repetition with trial and error.
Of course, you knew that, but it’s easy to forget when you only want to lose a few pounds or get in shape or get a different job, or change your way of eating.
Because we forget how we created where we are now, we tend to set ourselves up for failure. We forget what it took to get those other routines down. And we forget the process we went through to establish the habit we want to break. And we do not include those steps in our plans for change.
The personality does not want to change. The personality likes its routine. It might follow along for a little while, but at some point, it wants to snap back to the way things were.
Have you experienced that? Did you say you would stop smoking and then somewhere down the road pick it up again?
Did you say you wanted to lose weight, and maybe you did for a little while, but one day noticed that you’d regained the pounds you had lost?
Have you tried repeatedly to change your life and failed? If so, would you be interested in doing it differently?
Coming up next week: “Resisting Change”
In Progress: Book 3, Burnout to Bliss series
Book 3 relates my story of “surrender” — trusting that my life is in Divine Order. It is the final story of an awakening experience, my two-year journey with one modest paycheck and no plans that was launched with BURNOUT. The first getaway from that extreme situation was to a “sanctuary” in California as related in Book 2, CYCLING in the CITY. That getaway apparently was simply to heal myself enough to take the next step.
The real story of “surrender” began when that sanctuary was no longer available and I became like The Fool (Tarot card), jumping off a cliff with a tiny knapsack and a little dog for company…
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Till next time, please be kind to everyone you meet, for we all have our hidden sorrows. ~Tzaddi